ONE CHALLENGE OF INTERPERSONAL
RELATIONSHIP
Looking for a more suitable
scenario; I will just relate this:
If a young newlywed discovers
after her wedding day that her husband’s parents and siblings didn’t really
approve of her. Would she feel motivated to relate
with them or obligated?
In Nigeria where we still have
prevalent very strong traditional (socio-cultural) inclinations, she might see
it as a point of duty to reach out to them, not as a desire to be friendly.
This scenario typifies and
justifies common realities of life with respect to interpersonal relationships.
Most times we get caught in the
web of finding out. We find out that
things are not as they seem and they end up affecting/distorting existing ties.
At such points, one is tempted to have a rethink of the existing or potential
bond.
Striving for excellence requires a critical and drastic step, not analysis which could plunge you deeper
into the hate. This step might be
confrontational, which I decline or situational, which I most likely will
suggest.
I have heard people in their
relationship find time out to appraise their meeting through discourse-dialogue
and they relate plainly to themselves what they didn’t like or what their
perception was and some even go to the extent of frankly exposing even the not
so savory things they said about the other.
Most times also, these discourse
end with cracking hilarious jokes, while some might at that moment laugh it
out, but shell in later to reevaluate the circumstances and use them as
battle-weapons to crack down any friendly.
We Strive For Excellence
Best wishes…DESIRE
